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Only One Constant

March 13, 2009

This week I talked to a gentleman named Gustavo who asked me if I thought that America had seen its greater days come and go.  He believes the present economic collapse crisis is indicative of the coming collapse of American Culture/Capitalism/Democracy/Freedom.

Today I was listening to talk radio and commentator Michael Medved was interviewing an author who argued just the opposite.  He believes that the past 100 years has just been a precursor to the greater influence America will wield in the 21st century (A.D.).

And the “A.D.” strikes me because we are, in fact, living “in the year(s) of our Lord.”  And to be honest, I don’t know what the future holds for our culture but I do know that “the grass whithers and the flowers fall but the Word of the Lord stands forever.”  Whether American influence and supremacy rises or falls, the supremacy of Jesus Christ will still be a perpetual Light in our dark world.

My prayer is simply to teach my children and my church to put their hope in God alone while shining the light of Christ.  Meanwhile I want to help them learn to faithfully navigate whatever culture we live in.  And in the process I myself don’t want to be disqualified for the prize.

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Amazing Grace

February 23, 2009

John 1:16 says, “From the fullness of His grace, we have received one blessing after another.”  What a fantastic verse that sums up my life!  I have to confess (almost apologetically) that my life is not dark, troubled, empty, hopeless, loveless or without purpose.  That doesn’t mean it’s always easy—it’s rarely easy—but it’s always good!

I am truly a blessed man—it’s as if “one blessing after another” is a phrase that has been crafted to describe my life.  I have an amazing wife whom I greatly love and respect.  I have 3 healthy sons who are, for the most part, great kids walking on the right path thus far.  I have sufficient income to live comfortably and to give proportionately.  My wife and I own a fine home and have great jobs that provide us the opportunity to serve others.  I have a purpose that I’m passionate about (planting churches).  And I have friends that I don’t deserve.

Even though you see the word “I” a lot in this post, these things are not mentioned to boast.  As 1 Corinthians 10:17 says, “Let him who boasts, boast in the Lord.”  I mention these things to praise the Lord.

Here’s the thing:  I’m no more worthy of such things than anyone else; and no more worthy of such things than those who live dark, miserable lives.  I was an average student growing up, a poor athlete (which still bothers me), a bit socially-awkward for a time (probably due to a couple of years of home-schooling, for which I am none-the-less grateful), and oftentimes embarrassingly egotistical.  I’m certainly not tall, dark, and handsome (although my wife thinks I’m handsome and that’s enough for me), and I have a habit of being so talkative it’s obnoxious.

But I have hope, purpose, and spiritual peace and that comes from God alone—as His gift—as are the many blessings that flow from my faith in Christ Jesus.  Although life is regularly difficult, and sometimes tough to bear, I truly get to experience one blessing after another; and that’s the amazing grace about which I sing, for I deserve none of it but have been blessed none-the-less.

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Henry Pool Was Here

January 27, 2009

Last night my wife and I watched the DVD “Henry Pool was Here” starring Luke Wilson as a disgruntled and dying  young man who buys a home in the neighborhood where he grew up; expecting to die there, alone.  Annoyed by his new neighbors, he offers a perpetual stiff-arm to anyone who tries to befriend and encourage him. 

Extremely angry at the world, and lacking faith of any kind, Henry (played by Wilson) becomes indignant when his neighbors see an image of Jesus Christ in the water stain on his stucco wall-covering.  His indignation is significantly exaggerated when his friends and neighbors start to believe they’ve been healed by God when they touch the “water stain.”

Forget the Catholic theology, this is a must-see family movie.  Despite several four-letter words, it is a story of faith, hope and love.  It encourages the audience to recognize the importance of believing in something more than just the material world, it does not attempt to hide the misery in the world but is none-the-less a sunny movie, and it continually touts the importance of selflessness and service to others.  Likewise, it deals with some important psycho-social issues regarding why people share their faith, and why not.

It’s not very often that a movie inspires me to post a web-log—but this one has done that very thing.  It’s a faith-filled romantic-drama that might just elicit a tear (or two).  Thumbs up for “Henry Pool Was Here.”

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Glamour Shots

January 23, 2009

This past week we had new family pictures taken to welcome our newest son to the family (that makes three).  We did some “baby” shots, some “mom and baby” shots, some “older brothers welcome the baby” shots, and some “mom, dad and baby” shots.  Per my normal routine, I won’t post family names or family pics on my blog; but if you’re my wife’s friend you can see them on her Facebook page.

Anyway, we did some shots of me ala 1990s glamour shots (see new blog photo above).  And just to preempt all the e-mail sarcasm I’m surely facing, I thought I’d just lay it out there now.  Go ahead, make fun, laugh it up—but you’ve got to admit it’s a pretty good picture.  My favorite photographer probably touched it up to remove all the wrinkles, blemishes, and imperfections.  Despite the touch-ups it’s not going to be in GQ anytime soon; but we actually needed to take them for the North American Christian Convention next Summer.  I’m leading a workshop there and they want a photo for their publications.  However, I’m pretty sure the pic isn’t going to help attendance any at my workshop.

Well, enough with this narcissistic, hubristic, vainity-ridden blog post about my glamour shot—let the sneering begin!

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Blog More… Check!?!

January 16, 2009

One of my New Year’s resolutions was to blog more.  First resolution broken by January 16th.  Nice.  But I really do have a good excuse.

My wife gave birth to our third-born son on January 7 (which happens to be my birthday as well).  He’s nine days old, and I’m 32 years and 9 days old (I can hear all of you humming happy birthday as you read).  He was 6lbs, 6ozs, 18 1/2″ long, and generally healthy (although we had a few minor complications in labor and delivery).

Now we’re sleeping about 4.5 hours per night (joy), and generally having a hard time staying current on everything (not complaining), so the Blog has been a bit on the back-burner (apologies given, hopefully accepted).

We certainly appreciate your thoughts and prayers as we welcome this new baby and make this new transition in our lives.  And we appreciate all of you who have called, blessed, prayed, cared, visited and especially those who have brought food, gifts, and gigantic stork signs (we like you guys the best).

Truly, we feel blessed to have healthy children, great friends, and an awesome God!

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New Year’s Resolutions

January 3, 2009

Ah, the new year…!  Is it just me or does it not really feel like a new year?  Don’t get me wrong, we had a nice thanksgiving celebration and a wonderful Christmas celebration but the new year still managed to sneak up on me.  On Thursday I saw something about 2009 and thought “That’s a little premature,” but then realized that it was (is)2009.  Unbelievable!

During the new year people love to make all kinds of New Year’s Resolutions, most of which are hap-hazard and short lived.  I don’t do too many resolutions but last year I made a couple.  One I kept, but the other (no caffine) lasted about 12 weeks.  However, I was addicted to caffine and now I just drink in moderation, having transitioned to decaf coffee and maybe one diet soda a day.

Meanwhile I read 30 to 40 books last year (don’t know exact count); lost 40 lbs; got off of blood-pressure meds; and had a pretty good year in hindsight.  Our church continues to grow and progress, so that’s good; and so I find myself with nothing really to complain about.  (FYI:  Not complaining might be a good new year’s resolution for some of you!)

My resolutions this year?  Let see…, I want to blog more b/c I’ve gotten a bit lazy about the blog; I want to be more devotional and less political (my blog kind of deteriorited into occassional political rants during the election season); I want to save more money this year than I have in previous years (b/c I’d like to retire in about 35-40 years); I want to lose another 40 pounds (which would put me at about 150lbs); and I want to take a real vacation (since we’ve only done that once in our 9+ years of marriage).

That’s right, we’ll celebrate 10 years of marriage in September–we’re planning a tropical trip to Mexico to celebrate (scheduled for sometime this summer).

Mostly, though, I want to continue to learn what God wants me to learn; and I want to do better at being the man He wants me to be as (1) a Christian; (2) a Husband; (3) a Father; (4) a Leader; (5) a Servant; and (6) a Citizen.

May He bless you as well in 2009 with every spiritual blessing you need to live for Christ.

PS:  Son # 3 is due tomorrow (January 4th); we’ll see what happens!

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Merry Christmas Greetings:

December 16, 2008

I received the following Christmas Greeting via e-mail today and thought I would share it with you all.

Please accept with no obligation, implied or implicit, my best wishes for an environmentally conscious, socially responsible, low-stress, non-addictive, gender-neutral celebration of the winter solstice holiday, practiced within the most enjoyable traditions of the religious persuasion of your choice, or secular practices of your choice, with respect for the religious/secular persuasion and/or traditions of others, or their choice not to practice religious or secular traditions at all. I also wish you a fiscally successful, personally fulfilling and medically uncomplicated recognition of the onset of the generally accepted calendar year 2009, but not without due respect for the calendars of choice of other cultures whose contributions to society have helped make America great. Not to imply that America is necessarily greater than any other country nor the only America in the Western Hemisphere. Also, this wish is made without regard to the race, creed, color, age, physical ability, religious faith or sexual preference of the wishee.

My thoughts?  Whatever happened to “Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year?”

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With Liberty and Justice for All

December 9, 2008

The last phase of the Pledge of Allegiance to the American Flag says “With liberty and justice for all.”  It’s a lofty idea and a noble promise, but it hasn’t always been such in America.  There have been whole people groups who have been denied liberty (at least for a time), and there have been whole socio-political groups who have been denied justice (and/or have escaped the arm of justice).  But the promise and ambition still stands.  We want to be “one nation, under God, with liberty and justice for all.”

I believe in that very pledge and promise.  I believe in that ambition.  And that’s why I’m a Conservative—because I believe that the very best way to create “one nation under God with liberty and justice for all” is to create a nation that is colorblind (but not colorless), a nation that is protected by a small government whose primary purpose is blind justice (punishing those who do evil and rewarding those who do right, per Romans 13:3-4), and a nation where people have the freedom to make their own way in the world without the fear of government intervention or intrusion.  That’s Conservative because that’s clearly the kind of government that the Founding Father’s (with all of their strengths and some of their weaknesses) aspired to build.

Somewhere along the way, however, our Government has turned into a kind of “Big Brother;” although not so big, not so corrupt, and not so oppresive as Orwell envisioned in 1984.  I still respect our government, and will continue to honor our leaders, nontheless I fear that it will someday evolve and progress into something akin to the Orwellian Vision.

I’m not an anarchist in any way (I believe in the rule, righteousness, and importance of Law) but I do have some libertarian leanings.  Nor am I Republican, because I no longer believe that the Grand Old Party that liberated America from slavery has my values and interests in mind (our President, whom I believe is a good man who makes his decisions based on his conscience, has built the biggest federal government in American history and has failed to fight many of the battles I hoped he would).  And the DNC is even further from my values than the RNC/GOP.

So where does that leave me?

It leaves me as a Conservative without a viable party.  It leaves me as a citizen still willing to die for the right to vote and still willing to believe in the promise of the Pledge.  It leaves me as a minister of the Gospel wondering if the future will continue to protect my right to live, express, share, preach and “contend for the faith that was once for all entrusted to the saints” (Jude 3).  It leaves me to contemplate the fates of George Ryan and Rod Blagojevich (one corrupt Republican governor of Illinois and one allegedly corrupt Democratic governor of Illinois)—anecdotal evidence that big government has the power to corrupt leaders and empower corruption.  But if they can end up in prison where they belong (allegedly), then we can still have some hope for justice.

About liberty for all?  Only time will tell.

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Football in Fantasy Land

October 24, 2008

As many of you know, I’m one big football fan!

My favorite college team is the Oklahoma Sooners; however, if the Oklahoma State Cowboys knock off the Texas Longhorns this weekend I might just jump on the bandwagon—which would make me the only true OSU Cowboys fan in my family.

My favorite pro team is the San Francisco 49ers.  No band-wagon here, they stink, but I still check their news and stats five days a week.  Yes, it is a waste of time because the news is bad and the stats are even worse.  But I became a Niners fan when I was a boy, probably because I hated the Dallas Cowboys, and I cannot turn back now.

My dream season, of course, is for the the Sooners to win the National Championship in January and the Niners to win the World Championship in February.  With the Sooners it’s unlikely; with the Niners its virtually impossible.  Hey!  I can dream, right?

Speaking of Band-Wagon, if the Bears keep improving and winning games I might have to get on my oldest son’s band-wagon—he’s a Bears fan. 

Anyway, my dream of a championship season has been virtually squandered by mid-October.  Except for Fantasy Football.  I’m in a Fantasy League with a bunch of NFL neophytes.  They like to talk trash but they can’t hold a candle to my football IQ—actually, they can’t hold a candle to my IQ period.  And that’s not saying much!

Right now I’m like Barbaro, in the middle of the pack, gaining traction, moving ahead, surging for the victory…, wait, Barbaro shattered his leg and had to be put down…, bad analogy!  Or is it?  Only time in the fantasy world will tell!

Editor’s Note:  The views expressed in this post are not necessarily accepted by the Gospel According to Matt.  They are intended soley for the purpose of…, well…, who knows?  Does everything have to have a purpose!

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Milestones

October 7, 2008

Ten years ago I started dating my wife.  I weighed 180 pounds, which certainly wasn’t skinny, but it wasn’t too hefty either.  After we started dating she moved to Africa to work as a Medical Missionary among the Masaii and Turkana Tribes of East Africa.  She lived in Africa for four months.  When she returned I had put on about 25-30 pounds (ouch) in her absence, and since she still loved me I decided to marry her (luckily she didn’t object).  By the time we married I weighed about 215 pounds.  And two years after we were married I weighed 238 pounds.  Do you see a trend here?

Realizing the dangerous health-path I was on, I decided that some things needed to change.  So I started working out regularly, and though I was getting in better shape, I just wasn’t losing weight.  Then I started some trendy diets and I yo-yo’d up and down between 215-230 five or six times over the next four or five years–never being able to break the 215 barrier, and always jumping back up to 230.  Then I just started eating better, and I gave up “sugar” drinks such as Soda Pop, Kool-aide, etc.  Although I started feeling better, and started hovering between 215-220, I still didn’t see significant gains in weight loss.  After my mom passed away last year, my weight again jumped into the 230s.

That’s when a friend named Mike, another friend named Theresa, and my Dad encouraged me to go for a sleep-study.  We discovered that I had a sleep disorder called “Sleep Apnia,” which pretty much prevented me from sleeping for about the last 15 years (Unknown to me I had been waking up about 80 times an hour for years, thus suppressing my metabolism and causing me to crave calories).  They prescribed a CPAP machine to curb the sleeping disorder, and I continued to try to eat better and exercise.

What happened?  I started sleeping better, craving less food, and having more effective workouts due to the increased energy; my metabolism has increased and it’s now easier to lose weight.  This past week I broke the 200lb barrier (that is, I got below 200lbs) for the first time in ten years!  This morning I weighed in at an even 199.  And that is a milestone.  It’s taken ten years, lots of searching, and lots of discipline.  But it’s working–and hopefully it will last.  I’d still like to lose another 30lbs, but for now I’m just enjoying a rather big personal moment.

I don’t know what milestones you need to achieve.  But I believe that God gives us the friends, the help, and the fortitude necessary to accomplish our goals, if we are willing.  Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do and your plans will succeed.”

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